The swinger lifestyle is becoming quite popular despite the fact that it used to be taboo. Those involved with this type of lifestyle tend to have fun and feel safe being involved in it. However, many people still have a lot of misconceptions about it and wonder what would make a person want to become a swinger. Here are some of the most popular misconceptions about the swinger lifestyle.

Only Middle Aged Or Creepy People Do It

ONLY MIDDLE AGED OR CREEPY PEOPLE DO IT

While there are some middle-aged people or those with less than a stellar character that is swingers, this isn’t the only demographic that makes up this type of lifestyle. In fact, many swingers are affluent members of the community. They represent practically all age groups and you will find that more and younger people are doing it as they see the benefits of this type of lifestyle.

Being A Swinger Means Anything Goes

BEING A SWINGER MEANS ANYTHING GOES

Some couples are considered to be “full swap” couples. What this means is that each individual in a couple has sex with a person from another swinger couple. However, swingers make their own rules and to live the swinger lifestyle doesn’t just mean that anything goes. Some swingers aren’t okay with kissing, while others are fine with it, but will only engage in oral sex rather than go all the way. This is okay as it’s up to each couple to specify what they feel comfortable with in their relationship. There’s no right or wrong way to be a swinger. The most important thing is that each person is okay with what the other person is doing.

Swinging Is Only For Couples

SWINGING IS ONLY FOR COUPLES

There is a common misconception that only couples are into swinging. This is simply not the case as many single people go to swinger’s clubs. They are known as “unicorns”. They take part in the swinger lifestyle as a way to have some fun with a couple in an environment where they won’t be judged for wanting to explore a little bit.

Swingers Will Have Sex With Anyone

A huge myth about those that live the swinger lifestyle is that they will just have sex with anyone. This is simply not true as many swingers are actually very particular with who they choose to sleep with. If someone doesn’t want to play by their rules they are more than willing to just say no. Swingers are far from careless about who they choose to have sex with.

Swinging Will Cause A Couple To Break Up

SWINGING WILL CAUSE A COUPLE TO BREAK UP

It might not seem like a good idea to have sex with someone else if you are in a committed relationship, but swingers see the benefits of it. It allows them to explore a little and bring some excitement back into their relationship. They can also try things that maybe their partner just isn’t comfortable with. For those in a committed relationship, who set rules while they are swinging, they know that living the swinger lifestyle will only make their relationship stronger and not cause them to break up with each other.

Swinger’s Clubs Are Just About Having Sex

Swinger’s Clubs Are Just About Having Sex

While sex, and sometimes a lot of it, does happen at a swinger’s club, that isn’t just what it’s all about. Often times couples go there just to meet new people. Because this type of lifestyle is often seen as taboo, it can be difficult to find others to talk about some of the benefits and challenges of the swinger lifestyle. A lot of great conversations happen at swinger’s clubs. Having sex with another couple just happens to be a perk.

Women Aren’t Willing Participants

Women Aren’t Willing Participants

Many people are surprised to find that both men and women are into the swinger lifestyle. It isn’t just about men getting their needs fulfilled, but women as well. It can be sexually liberating for a woman and they can feel like there are getting the attention that they don’t always get from their spouse. Women often enjoy trying something new that their husband just isn’t into at home. Many women are the ones that suggest the swinger lifestyle to their husband in the first place.

Only Perverts Are Swingers

ONLY PERVERTS ARE SWINGERS

It’s a shame that many people think that swingers are perverts. It’s actually completely opposite as most swingers hold sex in a high regard. They would never disrespect another swinger by groping them or touching them inappropriately. In fact, many swingers have a better experience at a swinger’s club versus going to a regular club.They feel like it’s a safe place where they can open up about their wants and desires and try new things. They can be themselves and aren’t ashamed about what others think of them.

There Are No Bisexual Men

THERE ARE NO BISEXUAL MEN

It is pretty commonly known that there are some bi-curious women that go to swinger’s club. However, many people don’t realize that some bisexual men go there as well. In fact, many men go to a swinger’s club because they feel like it is a safe place to explore their sexuality. They can try something new without feeling as if they are being judged by others. It’s a great place to get their needs met in a way that their girlfriend or spouse simply can’t fulfill at home.

You Have To Be In An Open Relationship To Be A Swinger

You Have To Be In An Open Relationship To Be A Swinger

Living a swinger lifestyle and being in an open relationship are two separate things. Those in an open relationship generally allow their partner to sleep with anyone else that they want to and it’s not a shared experience. Swingers tend to share their lifestyle with their partner. They go to the club together and usually are both having sex at the same time. They often reunite when it’s over and share their experiences and sometimes go home and have sex with one another because they feel so close. It’s not a solo act, it’s something that they experience together that allows them to feel closer to each other.

As you can see, there are a lot of misconceptions about the swinger lifestyle. It’s a shame really because this lifestyle can be very healthy for all those involved. In can bring a couple closer together and allow them to experience new things and become more comfortable with their sexuality. If you are curious about the swinger lifestyle, don’t let these misconceptions keep you and your partner from giving it a try. You might find that it’s just what you need to improve your relationship and spice things up just a bit.